What's A Men's Group?
Our men’s groups are confidential, facilitator-led groups in the Boulder area for men who want to live with more integrity, courage, and emotional honesty. We meet regularly in a small circle to slow down, tell the truth about our lives, and practice showing up more fully for ourselves and the people who matter most to us.
In our time together, we focus on real relationships, not abstract ideas: how we handle conflict, how we ask for support, how we make and receive bids for connection, and how we respond when those bids are met or missed. We use simple structures, shared agreements, and clear prompts to help each man speak from the heart, listen with curiosity instead of fixing, and experiment with new ways of relating in a steady, grounded setting.
This is not therapy, performance, or a place to posture. It’s a space to be human with other men, to name what’s actually happening in your life, and to be met with respect, challenge, and warmth as you sort through it. Over time, many men experience more clarity, deeper connection at home and work, and a stronger, more rooted sense of themselves.
Your Opportunities
- Practice being open, transparent, and emotionally honest with other men.
- Build comfort with vulnerability in a humble, non‑judgmental circle.
- Learn to notice your own bids for connection and respond to others’ with warmth.
- Deepen friendships with men who are committed to growth, not performance.
- Explore how you show up in conflict, withdrawal, or people‑pleasing and try new patterns.
- Clarify your values and make small, concrete shifts toward living in alignment with them.
- Learn simple tools to regulate your nervous system and stay present in hard moments.
- Be witnessed in your real story without being fixed, rescued, or judged.
- Develop a sense of brotherhood and belonging instead of doing life alone.
- Set small experiments between meetings (a conversation, a boundary, a repair) and get support and accountability.
- Explore what grounded, relational masculinity means for you, beyond old stereotypes.
Our Expectations
- Show up consistently and punctually for each other.
- Show up with humility and respect, treating every man’s story as worthy of care.
- Practice non-judgment: no fixing, rescuing, or shaming—curiosity first, advice last.
- Be honest and vulnerable, sharing what’s real rather than what looks good.
- Keep confidentiality; what’s shared in the circle stays in the circle.
- Commit to growth by engaging, listening deeply, and taking small risks in how you show up.
Size: 6-10 men
Frequently Asked Questions
What happens in a typical men’s group session?
We meet in a small circle, check in, and use clear prompts and simple structures to guide honest sharing and listening. Sessions usually include rotating pairs, whole‑group reflection, and simple grounding practices so each man has space to speak from the heart and respond to others with curiosity rather than advice.
Do I need to have any experience with men’s work?
No prior experience is required. You don’t need to know any particular framework or have done therapy or retreats; you just need a genuine willingness to be open, listen respectfully, and treat other men’s stories with care.
What if I’m nervous or unsure about joining?
Feeling nervous is completely normal. You’ll be invited to go at a pace that feels honest but workable for you, and you’re never forced to share more than you’re ready for. Many men find that naming their nervousness out loud is actually a powerful first step.
Is this therapy?
No. This is a peer men’s group with a facilitator, not a therapy group, and it does not replace professional mental health care. The focus is on connection, reflection, and personal growth, not diagnosis or clinical treatment.
How often does the group meet, and how long are the sessions?
The group typically meets weekly for 1.5 to 2 hours over a season that runs about 2–3 months. This gives enough rhythm and depth for trust and momentum while still fitting into the rest of your life.
Where does the group meet?
We meet in leased space in Boulder, and the exact location may vary depending on the session and facilitator. Once you’re connected with the group, you’ll receive the address and any logistical details before each gathering.
How much does it cost?
The cost for a full group cycle (2–3 months of weekly sessions) has most recently been around $400, but this amount is subject to change without notice. Current pricing and any available options are shared when you inquire or during an initial conversation with the facilitator.
Is what I share kept confidential?
Yes. Confidentiality is a core agreement: what’s shared in the group stays in the group. This allows men to speak openly about their lives, relationships, and inner world without worrying that their stories will be shared outside the circle.
What kind of men join these groups?
Men who join are usually humble, curious, and ready to be more emotionally honest. Many are looking to grow as men, deepen friendships, and develop a sense of brotherhood and community with other men rather than doing life alone.
What if I miss a session?
Life happens, and occasional misses are understood. You’ll be asked to communicate when you can’t make it and to maintain a general commitment to showing up regularly so trust and continuity in the group can grow.
You might be wondering…
“Will I be judged or shamed?”
Many men worry they’ll be judged for their story, emotions, or past choices. In this Boulder men’s group, judgment and shaming are explicitly off‑limits: the norm is respect, curiosity, and confidentiality. You’re not expected to be perfect; you’re expected to be human.
“Do I have to be really vulnerable right away?”
It’s normal to fear being “too exposed” too fast. You won’t be pushed to spill everything on night one. Trust builds over time, and you share what feels honest and workable for you. You can always say, “I’m not ready to go into that yet,” and that boundary is respected.
“What if I don’t know how to talk about my feelings?”
Many men haven’t had much practice naming emotions beyond “fine” or “frustrated.” You don’t need a perfect emotional vocabulary to belong. Simple, honest phrases like “I feel tight in my chest,” “I’m angry but not sure why,” or “I’m numb right now” are more than enough. Part of the work is learning this language together, not getting graded on it.
“Will I be pushed to share more than I want to?”
A common fear is that a group will pressure you. Here, consent and self‑trust come first. You’ll be invited to stretch a bit, but you’re free to say, “I’d like to just listen tonight,” or “That’s as far as I want to go for now.” Your pace matters.
“What if I don’t fit in or my issues are different?”
It’s easy to feel like your story is too weird, too mild, or too intense. In practice, most men discover that underneath the details, the themes are shared: loneliness, conflict, shame, longing for connection, questions about masculinity, stress about work and family. You don’t have to match anyone’s life circumstances to be welcomed.
“Is joining a group basically admitting I’m failing as a man?”
Many of us carry the belief that “real men” handle everything alone. Joining a group is actually an act of responsibility, not failure. It says, “I’m willing to look honestly at my life and grow.” That’s courage, not collapse.
“Will talking about hard stuff just make it worse?”
It’s understandable to fear that focusing on pain will amplify it. Many men find the opposite: putting words to what’s been eating at them reduces its grip. Being witnessed with respect tends to bring relief, clarity, and more options. The aim isn’t to dwell in misery; it’s to move through what’s stuck so you’re freer outside the group.
“Is what I share really kept confidential?”
Privacy is a big concern. Confidentiality is a core agreement: what’s shared in the circle stays in the circle. You choose what you share and when. The intention is to create a space where you can speak openly without worrying that your story will travel.
“Am I going to be bombarded with advice and fixing?”
Many men hate being “fixed,” lectured, or talked over. This group emphasizes listening over advice. You may occasionally hear reflections or suggestions, but the first move is usually: “Here’s what I heard,” “This is what landed for me,” or “I relate to that.” You can also say, “I’m not looking for advice right now—just to be heard.”
“What if I get too emotional or shut down?”
Men often fear crying, getting angry, or going blank in front of others. Those moments are not seen as failures; they’re part of being human. Pauses, breath, and grounded support help you stay within your window of tolerance. No one is expecting you to be perfectly composed.